Thursday, July 22, 2010

Will My Hair Hold me Back?

Posted by Mandy at 2:29 PM
I posted recently about how I accepted a part-time writing position for our local news website Monticello Live.  I have to say that so far I LOVE it. This is my kind of job! The hours are my kind of working hours (evenings usually) and they don't require me to be away from home much. I can do the 'real' work when I carve out time at home. Love it, love it, love it!

At one of the last meetings I attended (Quorum Court) I took a glance around.

"Do I stick out like a sore thumb?"

All around me were women, older than I am, probably 40x's smarter than I am, with these super cute, professional shorter hair styles.


I came home that evening to discuss my big hair concerns with my hubby.

"Does my long hair make me look stupid? You know.. like a kid? Like... I'm just here to try to look pretty and not to report on this meeting?"

My hair and I would like to quote you on that.

He was oh-so helpful when his response was basically, "Who cares.... I like your long hair... don't cut it off because of that."

Thanks sweetie.. really.

Since that night I've taken a look around nearly everywhere I go. Most professional women I encounter tend to have shorter hair styles.

I earn twice as much as that long-hair chic..

 I can only think of one friend of mine, off the top of my head, that works full-time and has long hair. Hi Lauren! Her gorgeous locks were the reason I grew mine back out again.

Now, don't get me wrong. I'm loving my hair long right now. I've had it shorter for the past few years due to it being easier with little kids, but now, I'm enjoying my "princess" look as a friend's husband used to call it. Hi Amanda and Justin!

What do you think? Does a woman with long hair send a signal that she's not professional or as smart as her peers? Does shorter hair instantly make you appear more "together" in the work place? Perhaps I'm just over-thinking this.


Angie on Friday, 23 July, 2010 said...

I love my long hair! It used to be past my waist, oh so many years ago. I would keep your locks, and when going to work maybe pull them up in a funky twist, if you want to look more professional.
I feel a women with long hair is saying. I don't care what others think, I am a strong, independent woman!

Angie on Friday, 23 July, 2010 said...

Hi Mandy, I am back again!
I just wanted to let you know I have given you an award!
Have a great weekend!

Lou Arnold on Friday, 23 July, 2010 said...

You have to do what Mandy feels sexy in. I personally like your long hair. It makes you look young and not a mother of three (unless you are with them :)).

Liz on Saturday, 24 July, 2010 said...

That's so awesome about your position! I think it depends on how long. Very long hair can seem "young" but I wouldn't take someone less seriously if they had long hair.

Ann on Monday, 26 July, 2010 said...

Personally, I love your hair. Love, love, love it. I've always thought it looked so awesome.

As for professionalism, I think it's more how you wear your hair rather than whether it's long or short.

I say that because I had a coworker who, when she first started working with me, had long, straight hair with no style whatsoever. Several months later she got it layered. It was still long, but it became more professional. It made a huge difference in her overall appearance. She began to take pride in herself, wear make-up, and take the time to fix herself up in the mornings - even to just come hang out with toddlers all day. It communicated a lot to parents who came to drop off their little ones in her room.

I'm not a big one for keeping up with the latest fashions, but I do buy into the idea that we feel better when we like how we look, regardless of how that fits with society's standards. So, whether your hair is long or short, I think if it's something you can take pride in, that translates into confidence that can take you far in any of your professional - or not so professional - circles.

There, that's my rather lengthier than planned response! :-)

Anonymous said...

I have long hair and a master's degree. Most of the MD's I work with have had long hair as well... so keep it growing- I would never have short hair again (I look like a boy and long hair is just my comfort zone). I think we as women judge ourselves WAY more than others do! This is Amanda- I'm just too lazy to log in!

mrsmarkdave on Thursday, 05 August, 2010 said...

I don't think long hair makes you unprofessional. And if others look down on you, then they have their own insecurities to worry about.

Stacie on Tuesday, 04 January, 2011 said...

I know this is an old blog, but I am just catching up! I had a (single male) friend point out many years ago now that women get married and cut their hair. Then they end up divorcing and growing it back out again. Why don't women just leave their hair long? I tried several times to cut mine and any time it was short the hubby and I fought over stupid stuff. When it was long we got along much better. Then I remembered what that guy said so many years ago and found he may have been on to something. I choose to keep mine long because of this, as crazy as I know it sounds!

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