tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23840771.post7688642244305600681..comments2023-10-04T09:06:43.835-07:00Comments on Peace and Craziness: Good Grief I Hate VisitsMandyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08249168087397426420noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23840771.post-30379799228601904932011-02-16T14:25:33.992-08:002011-02-16T14:25:33.992-08:00I just found your blog... hopped over from a comme...I just found your blog... hopped over from a comment you left on Christy's "Middle Mom" blog. :) We are in Pine Bluff area and have been foster parents for a whopping 3 months now! Our almost 4 year old spazzes about visits also. One thing that has really helped is to get her isolated immediately after visitation (we drop off & pick up) and have a few minutes of one on one time while holding her as close as she will allow. I just go over the basics in a no-nonsense, but loving fashion: She is going back to my house now. She is safe. No one is going to hurt her when she is with us. We are going to eat dinner when we get home. I am happy she is at my house. She has to obey me. Once that is all stated and she has been held & reassured that she is wanted... she calms down. Big time. Its like I can just see the stress and traumatic junk melt off and she is able to look me in the eyes again. All the crazy, loud, obnoxious, wild, defiant behavior stops & we go back to her "normal".<br /><br />Because she lives in lala land most of the time and can't really have a "I feel..." conversation, we skip that initially and may pick it up again after she's had some food.JoAnnanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23840771.post-19259754957187553352011-01-19T10:21:53.672-08:002011-01-19T10:21:53.672-08:00Dang girl! I know what you are going through. The ...Dang girl! I know what you are going through. The visits, the meltdowns, the how long must you pay for this... recover just in time for another visit setback. Not fun! Hang in there!Perspective RADhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01592993630531157971noreply@blogger.com