tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23840771.post4139796140759208912..comments2023-10-04T09:06:43.835-07:00Comments on Peace and Craziness: What Kind of Mom Did You Think You Would Be?Mandyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08249168087397426420noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23840771.post-75990943538273971022010-04-14T20:39:20.678-07:002010-04-14T20:39:20.678-07:00I have been thinking about this blog since I TRIED...I have been thinking about this blog since I TRIED to read it the first time. I got not even half way through before I had to close it out with the kids into something, haha. By the way, if you see I visit often on your traffic ticker it is probably because I can't even read a full posting before having to close the screen and deal with the kids. <br /><br />While thinking, I could think of a million things I "dreamed" about before I was a wife and mother. Half of them isn't anything like the way things are, but the other half is exactly as I had dreamed. <br /><br />I don't like to cook with my kids either. I lose my patients sometimes. My husband doesn't come home every night. The kids don't sleep in their own beds every night (which I now realize I don't want them far away from me all night). My house isn't spotless every moment of the day. If company comes over unexpectedly, I (nor the kids) am not always fully dressed in decent clothes (sometimes it takes us a minute to answer a knock, haha!) My always-been, bestest-friend-in-the-whole-world isn't my neighbor where we can take turns visiting every day to drink a cup of coffee together (we can't even always find the time to talk on the phone every day!) I don't always have supper on the table at 5:00 while looking my best with the kids looking clean and well put together waiting on Daddy to walk in the door. And the list could go on and on BUT...<br /><br />I am a SAHM raising my kids as I feel I should. My kids have a home where they are loved, feel safe, and can be kids. I am trying my best to raise good, Christian kids that love Jesus, love their family, and love going to church. I have a wonderful husband that, even tho he isn't home every night, loves me and our kids and supports his family. Together, me and my husband are trying to show our girls how a marriage should be since so many people in the world today have it wrong. I am the kind of mom that doesn't care what your friends think or are doing. This list goes on and on too. <br /><br />Half of the million things I have thought about are how I dreamed and they are so much more important and precious than the half that didn't pan out.<br /><br />I guess I think that as long as your priorities are in the right order, you will automatically be Super Mom! My mom wasn't always perfect in every area, and she is still Super Mom to me. I bet our kids will think that about us one day too.Staciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18217279310614714902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23840771.post-53844182989297816012010-04-13T17:32:44.534-07:002010-04-13T17:32:44.534-07:00This *kind-of* made me feel better. ;-) I thought ...This *kind-of* made me feel better. ;-) I thought I would have a clean house. Don't ask me why, but I always <i>pictured</i> it clean in my mind. I was going to be super-organized, tidy, excel at my fantastic job and juggle family life easily. <br />And now I'm the homeschool mom to four, who loves art, crafts, and cooking with her kids. And, because I focus so much on art, nature, etc, I don't necessarily fit in with other moms out there. I mean, who likes to paint their own shoes, while wearing heels and pearls? No one but me.<br />The fact is, though, that God gave me MY kids, and we are a perfect match. I'm *finally* realizing that I don't have to be like anyone else. I don't have to work outside the home, or wear blah clothes, or send my kids to awanas, or anything else to be a good mom. Each to his (or her) own.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399663278970048427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23840771.post-38577144582060286752010-04-13T12:53:39.577-07:002010-04-13T12:53:39.577-07:00I am the mom I thought I would be...But I do have ...I am the mom I thought I would be...But I do have those moments thinking I should do this or that with my kids and have no motivation to do something I don't really enjoy to make "memories". As for cooking...if your kids can read give them a recipe and leave the room :) so you can't see the mess(and have a bit of mommy time). I let my kids use the oven and stove they are 9 and 12 but there are recipes you can do with out the oven. Look for no-bake recipes.Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16351968770358865366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23840771.post-13281334610350425682010-04-13T12:49:04.369-07:002010-04-13T12:49:04.369-07:00Glad you said that. I don't like cooking with...Glad you said that. I don't like cooking with my kids either. Actually, I don't like anyone in the kitchen when I'm in there. That being said, I do cook with my kids but it'll never be tops on my list.<br /><br />Like you I'm not as crafty as I thought I'd be. I used to love to do all sorts of crafts--scrapbook, cross stitch, paint ... now when I have time to myself, sometimes I don't want to do anything!<br /><br />One area where I'm better than I thought is play. I really play with my kids. So I figure if we don't cook all that often or make crafts at least they'll be able to say, "my mom played trains and ponies, and kid, and camping, and hide-n-seek ..."Your mom https://www.blogger.com/profile/15394878007006290276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23840771.post-106424507428534682010-04-13T11:40:00.885-07:002010-04-13T11:40:00.885-07:00I know exactly what you mean. I actually have a bl...I know exactly what you mean. I actually have a blog I'm posting tomorrow about what I didn't expect from motherhood. <br /><br />I think that's what all mothers do though. We are all just trying our best to make sure our kids have fun and have a good childhood even if we don't always feel like it.<br /><br />I would imagine all mothers just feel spent sometimes. Being a SAHM, I feel that way a lot! I don't know how many times I just want to put in a movie for the kids and hide, so that I can have time to think to myself or sleep! :) <br /><br />I am definitly not the mother that I thought I would be, but I guess that's ok. I love my kids and they know that, so I must be doing something right. I think it's fine to not feel very creative or fun ALL the time. <br /><br />This is a good saying....<br />It's not what you say or what you do that people remember...it's how you make them feel.<br /><br />As long as your kids know they are loved, I think it's ok to not to try and fit yourself into a tiny box of what you think a good mother should be (creative, fun, etc.)Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10212394621942004204noreply@blogger.com